Based on my experience, these are 10 signs your partner may not be who you think.RELATED: 9 Ways to Spot a Sociopath Does it feel like after years of living in black and white, you suddenly see the world in bursting color?When you’re stuck in a relationship with an incessant psychopath, it becomes quite a task to dig yourself out.
(I’ve written a memoir about my marriage, and plan to attend graduate school to become a licensed therapist, specializing in recovery from psychopathic relationships.) People are often surprised to learn that not all psychopaths are murderers. And they do it slowly, often while acting out the role of the Prince (or Princess) Charming you’ve been waiting for entire whole life.
My Prince Charming was the most charming of them all. The good news is that there are red flags that can help you identify a psychopath early on in a relationship.
“Psychopaths move extremely quickly” she writes “On the first date, he’ll probably tell you that you are stunningly beautiful, unbelievably intelligent, and uproariously witty.
He will play into every fantasy and insecurity you have.” This is where you get hooked to the person, but it’s also what he will likely use to control your emotions later by turning it on or off as needed. D., says if a guy or girl has issues with you maintaining boundaries or wanting to go at a slow pace, instead of going along with their desire to move fast, it may be a red flag. Signs to consider include starting to feel weary of pointing out his errors for fear of him arguing with you, or if he always has to have the last word and can’t ever admit he’s wrong.
If your partner exhibits traits such as a lack of empathy, compulsive lying, risk-taking, and promiscuity, you might need to make sure you aren't dating a full-blown Patrick Bateman.
Studies show that psychopaths like to stay close to their exes.
They used to be so “normal” and endearing, you fell head over heels for their charm.
Little did you notice the hidden darkness beneath that gorgeous smile.
Does your other half make everything seem exciting and fresh—all the time?
When a psychopath is pursuing a new relationship, she puts you up on a pedestal and turns on massive amounts of charm, enough to leave you breathless. Psychopaths use a tactic called “mirroring” to reflect back to you exactly what you want in a mate.
Many of us have had our fair share of bad experiences in relationships.