I was standing up there in front of a crowd of eager guys presenting a seminar on how to attract women and how to get a girlfriend, and a strange urge overtook me...
In many ways, there's nothing more addictive to the male mind. And there's also nothing wrong with it, so don't feel guilty.
I was talking to a friend of mine, Jeff, at a cocktail party the other night, and he was discussing his experience of getting good with women, having a lot of women to date, and how he wasn't very happy "dating around." Yes, I know, sounds crazy, but it's true with almost every guy I meet.
Since that day - over 3 years ago - I've been asking guys this question in almost all my seminars, and the results are always the same.
Most of the guys learning the skills of pickup are just learning them to find ONE good woman.
So why do guys work to learn how to be a "pickup artist" and learn all these seduction techniques, when what they really want is just to get a girlfriend?
I believe it's because men have a basic need, and it's illogical, but it is hard-wired in us. We want to have the thrill of the victory, overcoming the challenge, and then having our egos boosted with the validation of sexual POWER. He had one of the hottest girlfriends in our high school.Her name was Lisa, and she was this exotic looking Asian girl. And he treated Lisa like How in the world did this work? I thought you were supposed to treat women "nice," and give them things to show them you liked them. Now I'm really starting to think the universe was trying to keep me from having this game. Same story - "It won't be in until later this afternoon..." I ask a clerk for the game, and he sends me back up front where the games were being held in a "secure" location. You bet I felt a sense of accomplishment at having finally found it and bought it.Why is it so difficult for so many guys to ask a girl out on a date? Plus, she's with her friends, laughing and having a good time. I think I'll wait and go talk to another woman who's easier to approach." Ever thought that?Asking a woman out on a date is the most intimidating question a guy can ask a woman. She'd probably be turned off or angry if I interrupted her. Oh, I know you have, because I used to do this to myself all the damn time.It feels like you're putting your head up on the chopping block, giving yourself up for a woman's approval (or rejection.) . I'd self-sabotage my every attempt to approach women.