"Everybody said I should get married." Because Gloria is HIV positive, she thought marriage was out of the question. It could have happened while she was at the hair dressers or at the hospital where she worked.
In spite of all the safety precautions, she must have pricked herself with an infected needle. Gloria became pregnant and was kept under constant medical supervision.
I thought it was a formality I should finally take care of.
Having a relationship with an HIV-positive person Having a relationship with a person living with HIV/AIDS is a personal preference.
If your love to that person is genuine and if you can accept his/her condition, then yes, it is OK to have a relationship with him/her.
If a person is undetectable and stays on treatment, they cannot pass HIV on to a partner.
No study has ever shown HIV transmission from someone with an undetectable viral load.
He often gets as many as 100 calls a day, which invariably end with the same question. " It is a question which some people might find offensive, but Michael takes it in his stride.
He runs Nigeria's first dating agency for people with HIV-AIDS. " reads the graffiti which - complete with his telephone number - he has sprayed on walls, fences and stonework throughout the Nigerian capital of Abuja. The first time he picked up his spray can was in 2012. But once a woman reaches 30 or 35, then menopause starts to kick in and life can become traumatic," Michael said.I was in shock that simply sleeping with probably close to a hundred men throughout my 20s — in college, in Rome, Italy where I lived for five years, in New York City upon my return — and not being strict about using condoms could have such a serious consequence.I grew up during the HIV/AIDS crisis and should have known better, but as a heterosexual woman, I equated safe sex with not getting pregnant more than with getting an STI, let alone HIV. It's embarrassing to admit that now, but I really did ignorantly think sex was all fun and games.These days everybody in Nigeria seems to be talking about Michael's agency. He'd already been visiting people with HIV in hospital. "When I looked into their faces, I caught myself thinking this is no life for them and I wondered how I could help." Women under pressure to marry The official figure for the number of people with HIV-AIDS in Nigeria is 3.5 million, but the real figure is probably twice or three times as high. Yet women in Nigerian society are under pressure to find a husband and get married when they are young. In many African cultures, a marriage without children isn't a proper marriage.Those who know they are infected generally keep this knowledge to themselves. 35-year-old Gloria is one of the women whom Michael has been able to help.I was living in New York City with a boyfriend I'll call Matt when I was diagnosed with HIV. It was my first steady, long-term relationship, and we did what I used to think of as "grown-up" things.